At no point in her excuses did she say she was joking. She said she is gay and a POC, that she is scared of the consequences of her actions, and that if she was Haitian she would be upset.
She actually never even says she was sorry, just weasel words like “it just exploded” and “this was not my intent” and “was never meant to be seen outside of Springfield.”
She minimizes, back tracks and redirects blame, but never once says the words “I’m sorry” or “it was a joke that got out of hand.”
Those are the actions of a bigot running away from consequences, not a person who made an earnest mistake and is remorseful.
The context makes this statement different.
The above is the victim’s mother, who begged her not to marry her murderer. She says this after stating she found divorce papers in her daughter car after her death, which led her to believe he killed her because she was planning on leaving him.
The above is a statement trying to help women to avoid brutal men to begin with, not blaming them for being victims. It’s saying “if he does this kind of shit, don’t put up with it like my daughter did. Get out immediately.”