• Pan_Ziemniak@midwest.social
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    8 months ago

    Had a coworker say some shit about encountering some "slur ive never heard before and dont care to remember. I looked confused so he clarified, “a man who looks like a woman.” The speaker is someone im on good terms with, so when i countered, “u know im friends with trans folk, right?” they immediately backed off with, “oh i know, i meant they didnt even look good though.”

    I was pretty satisfied with how quickly they went back on what they were saying and began implying theres nothing wrong with being different, so i let off pressure, but the way this guy said the comment on looking good stuck out. My immediate thought was, oh, youre into t-girls, are uncomfortable about it, and doubly so when they encounter a t-woman they arent into.

    They dont get real world experience with trans people, so theyre almost like objects or at best npcs to them. Trans people are made up of those they wamna fuck, and those theyd rather not existed.

    Note, this guy is hardly the first such type to back off on trans stuff. If youre in regular contact with them, largely affirm their own experience of going thru life, its shockingly not too hard to get many to swing the other way. In groups tho, ur fucked. Youve no chance, and if u get into a group, like we see on the national level, they get defensive, and double down. Most of these ppl dont hold these beliefs as near and dear as the bible thumping redneck whose not traveled beyond 15 miles away from their home that we tend to inagine them as. Most are simply criminally undersocialized.