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Some woman on the internet said she would feel safer spending a night in the woods with a random bear rather than with a random man

    • endhits@lemmy.world
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      6 months ago

      Or maybe people don’t like being roped in with terrible people based on a part of them that they have no control over? Just a thought.

      • explodicle@sh.itjust.works
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        6 months ago

        In this scenario the woman has limited information. She has no choice but to assume average chances of a man or a bear killing her, regardless of the individual.

        When you’re facing down a threat in the woods, how much they enjoy being stereotyped isn’t your problem.

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          6 months ago

          If you believe you’re less likely to be in danger with a bear than a man, you’re just sexist.

            • berkeleyblue@lemmy.world
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              6 months ago

              Which would be?

              It’s nonsense. Out of 100 bear encounters about 1 turns violent. Now, how many men does the average women come in contact to daily and how many of them turn violent? I’m pretty sure the numbers are much, much lower than that for a bear encounter.

              My Wife walked passed approximately 1’000 just today. No one even talked to her in a weird way. This whole argument is just fear mongering with sociallly acceptable sexism. This doesn’t solve any problems.

              Also, statistically, strangers are the last people tk worry about. The overwhelming majority of abuse victims know their abuser or are even related. You should be more afraid to see uncle Frank and aunt Jenny in the woods than any random man.

              • explodicle@sh.itjust.works
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                6 months ago

                This is a gish gallop so I’m just going to highlight that the scenario in question is alone in the woods, not walking past men on a busy street.

                Please consider that you might be getting defensive, and will misinterpret both the initial premise and any explanations as a result.

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                  6 months ago

                  Not at all. You said being alone in a forest with a man is more dangerous than a bear, and I said that’s statistically nonsense.

                  Just because I wrote more than 2 sentences, doesn’t make that a gish gallop.

                  There are 2 premises:

                  1. Bears are dangerous (I agree)
                  2. A random man in a forest is more dangerous to a woman than that bear (I strongly disagree)

                  I showed my numbers for that 1 argument and that’s it. I’m happy to be proven wrong, if you have anything more than “it just is”.

                  I’m not defensive I find this comparison to be simply ridiculous.

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                    6 months ago

                    Now, how many men does the average women come in contact to daily and how many of them turn violent? I’m pretty sure the numbers are much, much lower than that for a bear encounter.

                    My Wife walked passed approximately 1’000 just today.

                    The only person you’re fooling is yourself

    • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      6 months ago

      i’m just trying to figure out why this is becoming a colloquialism, i mean we’ve had would you rather for a while. But this is a very different format from it, and it’s rather, obtuse. Is the most polite way i can think to explain it.

      I hate that i enjoy sociology sometimes, this is one of those times. People suck.

    • Gonzako@lemmy.world
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      6 months ago

      Yeah, the bear pick is the sneaky way women try to rob the average man of status by implying that we are mindless beasts willing to do the worst at the first chance we get.

      • mrcleanup@lemmy.world
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        6 months ago

        The fact that you think the point of this is your status and not someone else’s safety says so much.

        • Gonzako@lemmy.world
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          6 months ago

          Because it is about insulting men. No one’s actually getting trapped with bears because they’re answering either way. It’s there to prove a view, would you rather be stuck with a bear or a black person? A gay person? A trans person? A jew? A Muslim?

          It’s there to rile up people about their prejudices and I’m just sad we’re all getting piled on like this.

          • mrcleanup@lemmy.world
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            6 months ago

            Look, I’m a man, I’m not feeling insulted by this at all. If you are, maybe it’s time to ask why.

            I have no problem being a man while also acknowledging that sexual assault by men is a problem that is big enough that it has created a “caution culture” where people teach their daughters to be vigilant and women will cross the street if someone is walking behind them to stay safe. It isn’t like this is overblown, studies vary but all agree it’s somewhere more than one in ten women are victims of sexual violence in their lifetime. That’s a non-dismissible statistic.

            Sure sexual assault by women is a thing too, but men tend to handle it differently than women do. All we are doing here is acknowledging that in our culture “male stranger danger” is a thing that exists and is pervasive and strong enough that many women would be willing to risk the bear because at least it won’t rape them.

            Why would you be taking that personally?

            • Gonzako@lemmy.world
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              6 months ago

              Well, because it’s prejudice being directed and reinforced towards us! I am the average man, and so are you! I am down for all the #metoo movements ya’ll need but it needs to be pointed towards specifics. I won’t allow to be put in the same cage I supportedsome people to get out of.